Everywhere we turn we hear about the importance of date night. Pastors and relationship gurus spout this knowledge all the time. I appreciate the sentiment however, what do you do if it is not something you can do on a regular basis due to cash flow? Sure, have the date at home and watch a movie, pop some popcorn..blah, blah, blah. Take a walk or go on a picnic in your neighborhood (in 93 degree heat and 100 percent humidity) or just go have coffee (we don't drink coffee) and talk. All are valid ideas and fun but we still have to find a babysitter.
We have friends that we trade with every once in awhile but everyone is busy. Everyone has demands that take up time. I mean, we hardly have time to spend with each other much less our friends and then to just hand off our kiddos is not easy.
Yes I can hire a babysitter. What is the going rate these days anyway? We try to pay $6 or $7 dollars an hour but I know many people pay at least $10. So, to go on a (nice) date with my husband for one evening here are a few scenarios:
Dinner: $30, Movies: $20 (no popcorn or snacks), babysitter: at the high rate $50.
Dinner: $45 (Amerigo), Concert at the arena: $60-$120, Babysitter: $50-$70 (or in our case the last time a t-shirt, $35) and another $20
Dinner: Cheap $20 (think Chickfila), Dance Lesson at the Wildhorse (I think those are free right?), Babysitter $50.
So a date for us with a babysitter (that we probably don't know all that well) is around $70-$150. It is no wonder we don't go out all that often.
Hmm, now that I think about it our families should move out here so we can let the kids hang out with the grandparents. :)